Dating exclusively but not girlfriend
Our chemistry was immediate (physical, intellectual, and emotional) and things have been very easy so far. I am totally comfortable with the speed (how often we are communicating, seeing each other, and sharing information about ourselves).But, we recently slept together (it felt right and was great).He still has his online dating profile up and checks it regularly (we met on the site).I trust him and know that he is being honest, but now that we have slept with each other, it makes me feel vulnerable and nervous.I understand he has women "friends" as he has a life other than me. You can not be romantic with them, sexual with them, lie about them to your partner or hide the relationship, or prevent them from knowing or meeting the person you are exclusive with.Anything outside of the above and it is no longer exclusive no matter what you say.
However, we talked more recently and we both said that we aren’t dating anyone else, but we didn’t explicitly say that we are exclusive.What does it truly mean when someone asks you to go exclusive with them? In any language, exclusive means he can only have a romantic relationship with you and the same thing applies to you as well.I am hoping it means to not date/go out with other women. It does not mean though that you can not speak to, have as platonic friends , or date a person of the opposite sex.It’s important to remember, however, that nobody escapes matters of the heart completely unscathed.In 99% of relationships, either he’s breaking up with you or you’re breaking up with him. Which means that there’s a bit of risk involved in any relationship, and there’s not a single thing that your trusty dating coach can do to entirely eliminate that risk. This disconnect explains almost all of the friction in dating and once you understand it, you can make a permanent adjustment.Of course, you probably immediately said, “16,” showing you’ve paid attention to Well, if that was your answer, then, even though you aced the first question, you missed the second one.Just because you can date when you turn 16 doesn’t mean you should immediately start looking for a steady boyfriend or girlfriend.And if it’s important to you, it’s important to me.You’ve said it to me loud and clear; you’ve been hurt before, you don’t want it to happen again, and you definitely don’t want to waste your time.The two people aren’t “a couple” or “an item,” and they don’t refer to each other as a “boyfriend” or “girlfriend.” They don’t pair off. This is the kind of dating the Church encourages you to do after you turn 16.You should put aside a need to find a “one and only.” If you’re dating casually, you don’t expect a relationship to become a romance.